Worried I found DB too late

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Thanks. I feel better every day.

Saw my therapist today and went in with the thought that I was going to stop seeing her because it seems to be most a bitch session. However, today she really gave me some good insight, challenged me and made me feel like it was a worthwhile use of my time and energy.

While I didn't have any R talk with H tonight, when he left I told him the above and shared with him one big nugget of wisdom I got today. When H and I worked out how the separation would be, we talked about sex and we both thought we wouldn't put it off of the table. However, H has. I asked him why (without pushing, just curious) and he's said he didn't think it would be a good idea but couldn't tell me why.

My C today said that he's probably trying to separate his physical feelings for me from his emotional feelings. It's like a "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus" thang where their physical feelings don't affect their emotional feelings (unless there is a lack of physical, which can affect their emotions) as where with women, physical feelings partner with their emotional feelings. He said, "Bingo!" It really did help me and I told my H because I wanted him to know that I understood. I haven't been pushing the physical, but did wonder why he would all of a sudden turn it off. Now I know. It really did ease my mind a lot.