The first thing you do is take a few deep breathes. Calm yourself down before you do anything. Anything you decide right now will go horribly wrong.
I know this must hurt a great deal. But, any reaction to him directly will crater all of the hard work you've done.
Look at this way, he is moving. What kind of relationship can they have now. We men sometimes need a little excitement in our lives. Someone who makes us feel special (trust me here). She must be doing that for him. Try to do so as well. I know its hard because of the trust factor, but it can work.
Thanks Tomato! I am officially throwing away the account info. I got from BIL. I promised I would never look in H's phone again, and I just really feel strongly that I won't. But to make sure I don't "online snoop" again, I am ridding myself of the temptation.
I knew I shouldn't have done it even as I was typing in the password. The reason I will never look in H's phone again is it hurt too much to know what I found out....even if you can't read the actual messages on a phone bill, it still sucks to get that information. So no more looking. Period. I'll pray on it tonight so God helps me keep my word.
And unless H files for a D (WHICH HAS NEVER BEEN SUGGESTED :)) I will NEVER tell him that I snooped, either. Would do more harm than good.
Going to act "as if" H is busy getting himself together and I am doing the same, so we can wind up together in a happier, more successful M a few months down the line.....which I hope is what we ARE doing....
Okay if I go hit myself with a couple dozen 2x4s--we have them on hand since we are remodeling --maybe you all won't beat me too badly??
Thanks Woog. your opinion means a lot to me. Now I am going to go get one of those life things I keep hearing about. Actually am going to sleep but right now that is a joy for me, getting some sleep...
Every day brings a new chance to do your best--that is what I am shooting for tomorrow. With the little kiddos, with my own kids, with my church group, with everything. All we can do is our best, right??
Suddenly I remembered something I heard a teacher say to a kid tattling in line the other day "Johnny, are you taking care of you and you alone right now or are you worrying about what someone else is doing??" Guess if a second grader can learn that lesson so can I.....
--maybe you all won't beat me too badly??
Actually am going to sleep but right now that is a joy for me, getting some sleep...