TRYING to enjoy the quietness

[inmyplace]

Sorry guys...I have to do this for me. I have to move forward and thinking he may come back someday is keeping me from going anywhere in my life.

kissak, you don't have to be sorry. Whatever you need to do is ok by me and I suspect the others too.

Good luck. Keep moving forward.

IMP

[kissak]

hi kissak- just wanted you to know that i have been thinking about you. I am with you on letting go.

Just know - I am out here in cyber land thinking of you..and you better watch out my friend..i may show up some day just to get out of the queen city and come see you!!! =)

Any time my friend...the coast is a beautiful place to visit any time of the year. Thank you.

IMP>>>>thank you also...I am moving forward. Im doing ok. You have been a great friend here to me.

[inmyplace]

Thank you, kissak.

You have had ups and downs. You have had joys and sorrow. But you have tried as hard as anyone I have seen here to do the very best you could with a difficult situation. You were open to suggestions even when you felt you may not have been. No one can ever take away the effort you have put into your marriage. You can hold your head high.

I am honored to be called your friend.

All the best to you.

IMP

[mishka422]

((((((Kissak))))))

You have been holding on through some really horrible times and if you feel you need to let go now to save yourself then by all means do it. I cheer you for your courage to know when enough is enough.

You are a truly blessed woman. Hold tight to your kids and know that through Christ your sould will be completely healed.

Much love and support to you.

[MissH]

Kissack,

I have to do this for me. I have to move forward and thinking he may come back someday is keeping me from going anywhere in my life.

This is exactly my problem. I need to find it in me to not be afraid and move forward without him.

I am glad you are strong enough.

Hang in there, you are doing a good job.

[RealJourney]

Kissak, I think there comes a time when that " survival instinct" kicks in, and it's time to embrace the gift of life that we are given. I think it's good for the kids to see this too. I believe that the MLC spouses have to do their share, and that any marriage that's divorce busted is a result of not only the hard work that's done here, but by an equal effort, over time, from the confused spouse. I also believe that what's meant to be happens. Huggggs.

[kissak]

Thank you all...you brought tears to my eyes. I dont know what else to say....I dont know what is going to happen, but I know that God will take care of me for sure....I am taking all my pain and suffering and calling them blessings, because I have learned so much about myself through all of this and to GOD I am thankful.

[a new 2moro]

Kissak many huggs to you.....your h needs to go spin by himself. maybe this D will save you from being drawn in. you have been exposed to so much drama. now go get yourself a good L and get what you deserve. this all doesnt mean your m is over....your are just getting a good deal for GAL-ing. Let your children see the the strong stable parent!

[Grace_O]

kissak,

There is nothing to apologize for in protecting yourself and your kids. You have struggled and come to a place where you needed to draw a line. That you have learned alot about yourself is truly a blessing that can never be taken from you.

Take care and HUG your babies.

[kissak]

Thank you Grace and anew2moro....

I do have a lawyer in mind...

My H has in the separation papers Dec 26 07, which surprised me because he moved out in Sept....I will keep it that way. Actually the OW told him that they werent valid because we were together once in Feb...so If I wanted to I could extend till then...havent decided yet. Also he seems to be very generous on the house. I am allowed to live there as long as I desire...if I ever decide to sell, he gets first option to buy at MY ASKING PRICE! Then he only has to pay 80% of it, or if I sell to someone else he gets only 20% after all costs are taken care of. Pretty good deal in my opinion. BUT the part about his retirement says his retirement and iras remain solely his...WRONG! I am entitled to half and that money was put there because we were going to retire off of it, I do not have any retirement plans or iras....Am I being selfish? I will talk to my Lawyer about this.

oh me...here we go. I can do this. I am ready to finally do something! Going to have a good day.

I just cant get over that he said "I" was crazy!! That my whole family was crazy! OK, my dad to this day still likes my H. Doesnt agree with how he has been behaving, but still thinks he is a good person who has lost his mind. BUT still he likes him.

Whatever!