Yeah, it's pretty hard to know what any of these contacts do or don't mean. I'm feeling better overall about her going away on these trips. At least I've got a couple of small scale social things lined up for myself in the next week, so that feels good. It sure is a challenge to know about how exactly to pace things because you don't really know a lot about what is happening inside the MLCers head and heart. Everything is a distant inference based upon what you do and/or don't see behaviorally from them. You can look at broad patterns in the communication, but there are limits to how much you can infer from this too.
One question I have for the DB minds out there is this:
for MLCers who end up returning, do they usually realize at some point during or after their return that they were in some kind of MLC? I know they tend not to recognize it early on, but I'm curious as to what experiences people have had with this if they ever return?
