She'll Think of Me

[SueS]

W's chief complaint to me has been how I would withdraw ino my "shell" rather than engage her -- she hates it if she thinks she's being ignored. But then she also says she hates it when I stand up to her, because I am too "opinionated." But then if I don't stand up for myself and just go along with her, she loses respect for me. I can never seem to find the right balance, and it ends up being a no-win situation.

Hi NoCode-

Wow, did you hit the nail on the head for me. Exactly how I feel too. If I stood up, I was a b*tch and nagging. If I sat back and went along I was boring and respect was lost there too.

I know you feel that your email will push her further away, but I have to say that I've told my H those things too. That no one and nothing will give him happiness & peace until he finds it within himself. There's a part of him (although very small), that is a man who could bring himself to God. He had a lot of issues with his mom and how she handled her beliefs. I had a hard time getting him to finally go to church, but he agreed it was good for us. You are right.

Have a good evening.

Hugs to you!

SueS