I must be weird cause I can read what you type just fine. If you need me to explain my train wreck let me know. I will do my best. As to who I am... I am a guy that had a semi-WAW. I came here expecting all my problems to be solved. I read the books. Watched the movies. Connected with a few people. Made some crazy posts. Nobody really responded. I think they just weren't sure what to say. As I was reading thru, I found that most if not all the posts just seemed to be repeating themselves. Almost like the same person was writing them all just changing the story around a bit. One night I just sat down and started hammering on someone. If you really want to know I was hammering on myself. It seemed to work. Occasionally someone will respond with something you just did not expect. I learned that I was of more use just taking my view and their story and just spin it in my brain. What comes out is what comes out. I have learned that way. I saw what I was doing in what other people post. Lan was 3-4 steps behind me when he started posting. To him I could relate. I knew exactly what he was going thru. He listened. He was ready to. Sometimes I will bet he thought I could read his mind. I am reasonably happy. Do I have the marriage I want... No. It took me 13 years to get here. It will take some time to get to where I want to be. I am only 1-2 steps in front of Lan. He is catching up. I just a guy doing all the same stuff everyone else is doing. Making mistakes, Getting angry. But for some people I can just confuse them long enough to see what they are doing. Smoke and mirrors.
FB2 ..
I saw you wanted me to look at your stitch. What I will say is I have a really hard time digesting alot of stitches. I have to focus on one or 2. I will look. If you ever see me post and I get some of it but the other stuff seems to be way off base. I was trying to hard. When I post it takes forever. I have to read it. Spin it. Re read it. Spin it again then type it all out. Most of the time I end up posting just as the person updates. And it is exactly what I wanted them not to do. Oh that is confusing. I will get around to it. Just bear with me. I saw the sign you were holding up.
Lan..
Last but not least.
This time you are in is nice. You are on the cusp of what you have been looking for. I hope for you it goes different than it did for me. You will find that the thing you were waiting on just is not quite what you thought it would be. When you release some "tension" it will feel good but you still have some work to do. She has some work to do. Hopefully you will slow down with the picking apart of every situation. Things will start to settle. Just tread carefully. Give yourself and her some time to digest. After every up there is a down. The idea is to create a up that does not fall that far down.
Remember.. She is now holding a sign that says "Your aim would help". Let her see it coming at her from everywhere. She won't be able to get away from it. Remember ultimately you are still controlling the "flow".
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
