to get "I Never Stopped Loving You." all over everything
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Originally Posted By: Lanzo
let all the hurt and pain in me heal itself naturally .......and then forgiveness, well that could then be anything.
Right, I'm beginning to understand now.
Lan
PS Forrest this has to be one of your best and understandable off beat analogies. Yes I understood it first time and it's made things click in my head.
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump (full quote)
Me and you both know our aim sucks. We can't even control what is attached to us. The harder you try to aim the less you will hit the mark. When you see the sign in the bathroom that says.. "My aim is to keep the bathroom clean. Your aim would help." Don't you really just want to wave it about. Get it all over everything. I'll say it again... get "I Never Stopped Loving You." all over everything.
A nice way to round off before we get thread locked.
W phone me today to say she was going out for dinner with the girls at work on Saturday and would it be alright with me. I said I've no problem with that any anyway she doesn't need to check in with me. W said she was away last weekend and just thought I may have something planned for myself. She said she'd just go for the meal to be sociable and then come straight home. I just told her to enjoy herself.
Then I had a thought
Originally Posted By: Kalni 02/16/08
Have you thought of discretely flirting with her?
I sent W a txt which said "you better be in good mood after your meal cos I'm gonna put you to sleep when you come to bed".
Well there was no immediate response, but after 10 mins W phoned me and said "Behave !!!". I said what's the problem. Well she said she was working away quietly in her office and I sent her a txt like that. I ask if it was ok to send txt like that. W said yes. So jokingly I said theres loads more like that to follow. And we both laughed.
Later in the evening when D6 was playing up I threadened to make her sleep over at MIL on Saturday (she doesn't like staying). Then W said maybe that's a good idea cos if D6 is at MIL then I could join her for a drink after her meal. Hmm... I like that idea.
I stopped posting for a while because the english on your thread got very difficult for me to get...(FG is amazing, who is this guy? ) But your last post I DO GET!!!!
And I like watching your brain going to the right direction(IMO)...
I am not THAT lost. I knew what south of the border honey pot etc etc meant. That's why I said I liked the fact your brain seems to be working to the "right direction"... (flirting, teasing etc)
But thanks anyway.
K
PS Actually sometimes I get FG better than you (LOL)
Hey Lan, Good to see you are moving towards the Honey Pot. Yes, Kalni FG's language is often Greek to me. I'm glad most of the messages are in English and not Greek but I do like FG's posts here and for some reason I can't lead him to my thread; nothing much happening there I guess.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
Did you follow all that stuff in my thread on forgiveness ? I'm certainly a lot clearer on it now. bottom line for me is don't get hung up on forgiveness. Just be happy, Just be happy W and I are together, Just be happy that I can send her flirty txt, just be happy with me.
I must be weird cause I can read what you type just fine. If you need me to explain my train wreck let me know. I will do my best. As to who I am... I am a guy that had a semi-WAW. I came here expecting all my problems to be solved. I read the books. Watched the movies. Connected with a few people. Made some crazy posts. Nobody really responded. I think they just weren't sure what to say. As I was reading thru, I found that most if not all the posts just seemed to be repeating themselves. Almost like the same person was writing them all just changing the story around a bit. One night I just sat down and started hammering on someone. If you really want to know I was hammering on myself. It seemed to work. Occasionally someone will respond with something you just did not expect. I learned that I was of more use just taking my view and their story and just spin it in my brain. What comes out is what comes out. I have learned that way. I saw what I was doing in what other people post. Lan was 3-4 steps behind me when he started posting. To him I could relate. I knew exactly what he was going thru. He listened. He was ready to. Sometimes I will bet he thought I could read his mind. I am reasonably happy. Do I have the marriage I want... No. It took me 13 years to get here. It will take some time to get to where I want to be. I am only 1-2 steps in front of Lan. He is catching up. I just a guy doing all the same stuff everyone else is doing. Making mistakes, Getting angry. But for some people I can just confuse them long enough to see what they are doing. Smoke and mirrors.
FB2 ..
I saw you wanted me to look at your stitch. What I will say is I have a really hard time digesting alot of stitches. I have to focus on one or 2. I will look. If you ever see me post and I get some of it but the other stuff seems to be way off base. I was trying to hard. When I post it takes forever. I have to read it. Spin it. Re read it. Spin it again then type it all out. Most of the time I end up posting just as the person updates. And it is exactly what I wanted them not to do. Oh that is confusing. I will get around to it. Just bear with me. I saw the sign you were holding up.
Lan..
Last but not least.
This time you are in is nice. You are on the cusp of what you have been looking for. I hope for you it goes different than it did for me. You will find that the thing you were waiting on just is not quite what you thought it would be. When you release some "tension" it will feel good but you still have some work to do. She has some work to do. Hopefully you will slow down with the picking apart of every situation. Things will start to settle. Just tread carefully. Give yourself and her some time to digest. After every up there is a down. The idea is to create a up that does not fall that far down.
Remember.. She is now holding a sign that says "Your aim would help". Let her see it coming at her from everywhere. She won't be able to get away from it. Remember ultimately you are still controlling the "flow".
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
sometimes overanalyzing doesn't get us anywhere. I feel I need to keep the balance between emotions and brains. When I try to use my logic to nail down what I am looking for, even if I come up to something, it never feels quiet/just right in the end. I do get now that in a R/M you can not/shouldn't let either one (logic/emotions) "sleep" for too long. Forgiveness: You've tried to break it down, to analyse it (you did), to explain, find the pre-requisities, hear others oppinion, listen to your heart, rationalise it... I am glad you felt it was enough (thinking)... IMO you came to a conclusion that -at least- gets the burden off you right now..
FG, I asked "who is this guy" with admiration, not in a bad sense, I hope you didn't misunderstand me. I like the way you "type", as you put it, and it makes me wonder how many things you are thinking, that you actually "miss" by typing. I understand most of the time what you guys are talking about. It's sometimes when you use so many phrases in one sentence I just have never heard of, that I can't keep up. (But I would never interrupt a "discussion" with questions about English, I am filling in the blanks, hopefully not completely wrong...).
Hopefully you will slow down with the picking apart of every situation.
That will probably happen whan I get some and stop worrying about her giving it up for someome else.
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
Remember.. She is now holding a sign that says "Your aim would help". Let her see it coming at her from everywhere. She won't be able to get away from it. Remember ultimately you are still controlling the "flow".
I get it, I understand now. This goes along side another one of those signs from W you quoted to me. Which was "I want you" (to make me want you).
