I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR. My attitude at my 2 year mark was along the lines of "Oh for F's sake. I've worked on myself, I'm one DARNED FINE girl, you've said you played your part in this M crisis, so I stated calmly what I wanted, told it to you straight just like you asked and you are STILL pussyfooting about. I cannot do any more here. If you want help, I will provide it. But I cannot mind read and I cannot guess".
It's SO nice to know that someone else out there gets it. Know how I feel? I feel like he got what he wanted, thought deep down that *I* was the problem and that's all solved now, so he doesn't have to change a darn thing. *I* could change, but he can't. It makes me CRAZY.
I feel like what I hear described as MLC. I have had thoughts of just getting in the car and driving away...for a weekend, a week, a month, forever.... And I know it's crazy, but how many freaking times do I have to say the same thing? I feel the fog...I get the alien a lot better than I did then...and it's just plain rough.
I agree: my H and your H share DNA somehow. I don't think it's just the penis; Rob presumably has a penis as does Jeff, and they don't seem to share the DUH that our H's do/did.
Just ranting...I need to refocus on solutions, though for the life of me I'm just stumped. Any chance you'd be in the neighborhood for a drink anytime soon? *grin*
Hope things are all going well with you!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!