Hello my Darlings!!!!

[KarenMarieS]

This is a great thread!!
Its so nice to read from others what you have felt for a while and wonder if you were nuts or not!

I remember when I finally moved to Surviving from MLC 2 yrs ago, I would still linger over there, I would read how some LB would sit at home patiently waiting for their WA to come home when they 1- we're hungry 2- had some time to kill 3- see the kids whatever and the LB would jump up, look good, make them a great home cooked meal ( knew I was doomed right there!) wave goodbye, they went back to their OP and the LB would again sit, cry, go to bed alone and wait for it to happend the next day

I was angry at myself that I didnt do this! why didnt I??
I know, cause like Barb said, its not in me - as fiercely as I wanted my H home and family back together I was not going to be made a doormat- I could only validate and justify his disgusting behaivor so far.

It may work for some, I am sure it has, was it how I wanted it to work for me? no, if my ex didnt want to come back to me and work at a better marriage I wasnt going to sit here and wait any longer.

I do hope those in mlc who do not think they want to go on like that anymore, know its ok not to "stand" Its ok to say, enough is enough