Have A Cigar

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Ok, a little journaling here. Spring break for D12 is coming up this month. I have been wondering what she could do with a whole week off and decided that she could go and visit my parents. She has done this in the past and they love having her since they are both retired.

So I asked D12 what she thought about going to her grandparents house for the week? She then told me that her mom was thinking of having a "few" days off during that time so they could spend some time together.

So I was in a quandary about what I should say to the X about her going to my folks? I talked to my GF and she reminded me that 1 I have D12 all but 4 days a month. Her mom makes no special effort to she her more than that even though she has some days off during the week, or used to until she took a second job.

GF suggested that if the x is unwilling to take the whole week off that I should insist that D12 go to my folks for the week. So tonight when the x called to talk to D12 I told her if she couldn't do the whole week that D12 was going to my folks. She didn't even resist, she just said ok.

This woman has pretty much checked out on her youngest D. The whole reason she has a second job is that she amassed a huge amount of debt and continues to do so. For example, she just bought a second Chihuahua from the same place she bought her first one. I don't know for sure how much she paid for it but the last one was $500. So doesn't even have time to spend with the first one so now she has a second one! So that is more debt and get this, she knows D12 needs spring clothes but hasn't offered to buy her any. She gives me zero money towards D12's upkeep and I know that is what I asked for but you would think a mom would take her D shopping for clothes once in a while.

So she can continue to do crazy things and I will continue to be the responsible adult and raise "our" youngest child.