Controlling how? Could you give an example of a convo regarding money issues between you and H?
Whatever you have to discuss with H, you will want to pick your words very carefully. Think before you speak and try not to come off as if it's H's fault or that he's the reason why there's a problem, kwim?
Be calm and considerate.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
