Went back over your post and I laughed at what you said b/c I have felt the same way about you.....hahahaha. I guess we both must be brutal and hard of hearing. I agree that my life should have been more fulfilling. Thank you for being sorry that it wasn't. I don't know why, but that does mean something to me that you said that.
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I feel overwhelmed with who you are.
What do you mean, sweetie? Who am I? (lol)
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You have not made enough of a change to "show him the way."
He is not blind. Why do I have to show him the way? I tried for nearly 4 decades and it didn't work.
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You are still "there". He is ok with that from his chair.
Where is "there"? I'm not in MLC any longer. I'm not having an EA. So, where is "there"?
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Make him get up. He can push the button that says stand.
Forrest, if I couldn't do it when I was 18 years old, how the heck do you think I can do it now as broken down and sick as I am? If he is a "real" man, I shouldn't have to opperate him like a puppet.
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DAM'IT woman do something different!!!
Like what, Forrest? I'm out of ideas.
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Show him you want to be happy. You want to roll out on some 26" rims on the Lincoln. (I understand you will not get that)
Oh I might know more about those rims than you think...lol. I have pictures of my grandparent's cars.....(just kidding). Seriously, I know what you are talking about. What I'm not getting across to some of you is the fact that I have a disease that prevents me from doing most things I once did. Sweetie, if I can't even cook a meal every night when I come in from a job (that is not labor type work), then how am I going to do some "wild thing" to show him I want to be happy. I used to or at least I tried to. I tried to show him how to have fun, but he was just a stick in the mud. So, I stopped trying. It gets tiresome after so many years. I am out of energy. Sad, but true. I need somebody to energize me instead of the other way around.
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Show me who you are. Surprise Me. Show a young buck he has nothing on you!!
If you had known me in earlier years, you would think "surprise me"! I never wanted my H to be bored, so, I tried to have those surprises as often as I could.
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Step it up.
How? What am I suppose to do? I think you men get off easy by saying that we women have to show you how to be happy and to push your buttons for you to stand up, etc. That's bull! What do single men do? Wait for some woman to come along and tell them to go from point A to point B? I don't buy it. If men know how to win over a girl to marry him, he should know what else he has to do and not just shut down b/c he is M!
Perhaps you see me as a whinner or complainer. I don't mean to be, it's just that I find myself answering the same thing over and over like nobody has heard me. Kind of like a W nagging her H that doesn't hear.....ya think? But, then they have to be told, shown, or taught everything to do.....if I'm understanding you correctly. Gee whiz! All this time, I was giving to much credit to the male gender. Hummmmmm.
You said you really wanted to know what I'm feeling. I am feeling like I am open to suggestions, but I want you to understand where I am coming from also. Please. I really am not trying to be difficult.....(I know you want to yell at this point), so I'll hush.
Sandi
P.S. I am not offended. I can usually give as good as I get. (lol)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
