First off, solutions journals are a wonderful thing, particularly for newcomers. I don't understand why they are stickied for so long. Get them started, see that there is some feedback coming, then let them float. Somehow this thread, and all the other threads I might add, existed and people got help without having their thread permanently stickied in the past. I don't see why it wouldn't work again. And please. If the forum moderator is going to make it their business to bump every solution journal every time they are on, there is no sense in un-stickying them (is that even a word?).
As for the rest, I'm tired of seeing the same old lines about how this is THEIR forum so we have to abide by THEIR rules. Alright, let me give a great big DUH!. This is a divorce BUSTING website, so we expect the focus to be on people who want to BUST their impending divorce.
So what do you propose we do for those who have reached the point where divorce is now the reality? By their choice OR their spouses choice? DB'ing principles, as MANY have noted, are effective and helpful in ALL phases of our lives, and certainly in future relationships. These people have a place here too, should they desire to stay with those they have labored and lamented by.
The bannings made no sense. I will still submit that I posted nothing that merited a banning. Call me selfish or biased, but I still assert this is true. RCR has helped NUMEROUS people on this forum, INCLUDING ME, and certainly did nothing to merit banning. Sandi made a harmless mistake, and was banned without taking the time to see just what was going on.
I don't know if sgctxok is the power behind these bannings. I assume she is, because she has become the new face of this forum. And because it is SHE who eventually emailed me to let me know that the ban COULD be lifted. So if we are assuming responsibility to her erroneously, all she has to do is say so.
Whoever is responsible, the bannings were innappropriate. Like RCR, I will say that I can envision a situation where a banning would be merited. But, given that I have accounts on several different forums, I can tell you that banning without warning, without indicating the nature of the offense is something, in my experience at least, unique to THESE recent bannings. Something is wrong with that.
As others have pointed out, there are people here who have faced the ultimate rejection. To be tossed off of this site with nary a word as to why or for how long, is another kick in the pants to someone who has already been kicked enough. Common decency would compel most people to at least let the offender know that there was a problem.
So...all that is to say that I agree with RCR that sgctxok's credibility has been harmed by recent events on this board. But IMP, you're right too. This is a place for people hoping for a second chance. So I'll bite the bullet. Not that I have ANY say in this matter at all, but I'm willing to give it another shot.
But I would really like an explanation as to what our moderators plan to consider ban-able offenses in the future.
I am divorced. Not by my choice, but I am. And I am just fine with that now. I have a life again, a future with another, and I'm looking forward to the years to come. I still believe in the sanctity of marriage, and still believe that marriages SHOULD be forever. And I'd like to think I still have something of value to offer to some here.
I would like to know that my personal situation is not going to be used to ban me, or others like me, from this board again.
Blessings,
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 03/04/0811:10 PM.
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