Sandi's Here in Piecing from Almost WAW

[sandi2]

Thank you Ann, I appreciate that. I think that age/experience has a lot to say....at least that is what I try to convince my grandson who is wanting to get married already! I've tried to tell him that girl he thinks he is in love with now, will not be the same person in a few years, but of course he doesn't listen any more than I did.

I also appreciate the fact that you realize that it has been a battle for me to just be able to put the OM behind me and not go looking for another one or to run away. That has been hard at times. I think I got bogged down and frustrated when I was over in Sex Starved forum b/c I always felt that there were those who just did not understand my stitch and there were some things that I could not tell. As I told Forrest, I feel like I was the one that worked so hard for over 4 decades to make the M work and then I just tuckered out. (That's an old expression, in case you've never heard it...lol.) I know that he, along with others, have told me to "move" and do something, but I'm not sure exactly what it is I'm suppose to do that I have not already tried. I can offer advice to the younger women and try to encourage them and hope things work better for them than it did me.....but to tell you the truth, I've about run out of ideas for my own M. I think if I was able to cook a great meal every night, (like his mother did), and keep house real nice, and have people over a lot (like his family always did), hold down a full time job (like his mother did), and hold down about 15 jobs in the Church (like his mother did not do!),.......let see, is there anything I'm leaving out?.....oh yes, have the grandbabies over here all the time and do all the cooking for my grown children, .........I think he would be pretty happy (even without sex)! But, I am not his mother and don't want to be. I have done all of those things in the past at one time or another, but I'm not able any longer.

I think our R has come a long ways since this time last year! I was ready to run like a scared deer this time last year. It was awful. So, just b/c we aren't having sex doesn't mean things are bad, it just means we aren't having sex. Maybe it means it's bad to the men here. That old expression, "If you don't use it, you'll lose it"? Well, he started losing it a long time ago, so I'm pretty sure he's done now. But, that doesn't mean we can't still have a good R and be happy in life.

Some may think I did not have a MLC....well, I don't know. All I know is that I sure fit the bill, even if I was too old to have one...lol. Glad it didn't last any longer than it did or I think I would have had a nervous breakdown. It makes me understand these women that go through MLC a lot better, let me tell you! I can identify with everything they say.

Well, come back and see me again, Ann. BTW, what you said about working things out without thinking about the OM....that was what was happening over in Sex Starved.....it made me think about OM and I didn't want that. You seem to understand, and that means a lot to me.

Sandi