Something about being in MLC that brings some people to realization of what they're about. Please look for the writings of Dr. Patrick Carnes who pioneered the research into sex addiction. There are websites as well and online tests that help identify the problem. Some people say they are "sex addicts" but the thing is that addiction is addiction. Sex happens to be the "escape" of choice. It's not about the sex. My H was diagnosed as having "active sex addiction" about 10 years ago. He also cried and was incredulous at the realization of what he was doing. We didn't finish counselling and I still think his latest A is a result of the same addiction problem. (BTW - this last A played itself out a couple of months ago after the typical 18-24 mos.)
Look for the books - "Out of the Shadows" and "Don't Call it Love" among other books by Dr. Carnes. It will more importantly help you to understand. I think I read that in 87% of the patients under Dr. Carnes, have childhood sex abuse in their backgrounds. Another high percentage have other types of abuse. Here's a link to the related website to Dr. Carnes: http://www.sexhelp.com/index.cfm
Good luck. It's something quite formidable but giving yourself some knowledge is a first step.
H:55 M:54 D:16 M:1983 A#2:11/05 I moved out:09/06 A ended:01/08, new A started 05/08 D: tbc - sometimes this fall??
"You did what you knew how to do. When you knew better, you did better" - Maya Angelou
