This man was saying and doing things that I never thought he was capable of...and I in turn said and did things I didn't think I was capable of. I still look back and think "Did that really happen?"
Ditto, and after reading your post, I realized that I omitted in my response the part where I did the same. I was so hurt and couldn't believe he said what he said to me, so to "retaliate", I would act hurtful, too. I'd hit him (not physically!) where I knew it would hurt the most. It was so wrong for me to do, and I hated that I acted that way. I eventually apologized and said I was so sorry for ever saying such things. They were not true and that wasn't how I felt at all. I just wanted him to hurt as badly as I had. I apologized a few times before, but at Christmas, I bought him a card and wrote down exactly what I wanted to say. After he finally opened it (which was 2 or 3 weeks later ), he came to me and gave me a big hug. He said, "I just read your card. Thank you so much for that. You have no idea what it means to me." It was later that week when he said he wanted to reconcile.
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I do feel like our marriage can be a lot stronger now.
I'm very happy for you! Cheers!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
), he came to me and gave me a big hug. He said, "I just read your card. Thank you so much for that. You have no idea what it means to me." It was later that week when he said he wanted to reconcile.
