Quoting AchingMan: Are there women out there that would rather have their husbands ravish them ardorously on the stairs halfway through washing the dishes because their passionate love took over their self-control?
aye, AchingMan, aye
I was searching for my name which is often shortened to "char". I usually get lots of results with the word "character" in them, and this post's title was irresistable.
My husband just bought "The Sex Starved Marriage", and just like DB and DR, every page I flip to has something that makes me nod my head.
I am/was a WAW. H and I separated for only one week, maybe two, and we've decided to work things out as best we can. We've been struggling, though it seems all the outward overatures have passed and now we're left with the same "incommunicado" situation we had before D-Day.
Talking about our M makes us fight for some reason so we've stopped doing that.
Now we're left with the accepting and forgiving of what the other's done and we're left with the same shoddy skills we had before. It is most definitely time to try something different. So... we're/I'm (???) working on my libido (???). The funny thing is that I believe myself to be an incredibly sexual creature, and your statement (quoted above) made me say YES!!! We Are Here!!! To me, this is the expression of love I am looking for. Let me say no, let me look mad and struggle against H... and let H assure me with looks and touches that the dishes most certainly CAN wait.
Obviously, the problem is... is that I say no, and look mad, and H gets his feelings hurt, and has gotten his feelings hurt so, so, so many times that when we go to bed, he says things like "I'm going to bed. See ya." So, I lie there, lightly shell shocked and tremendously confused. I've been working on increasing my appetite, reading wonderful sexy poems (see Passionate Hearts by Wendy Maltz)... and coping with my other "issues", and then am faced with this mountain I most certainly helped build.
And I know, one word... maybe three or four... and he'd have changed his tune... but it's like... well... it's no stairway anyway....
