Boy, Aching Man, you write so well, I appreciate your thoughts. I'm curious, have you read The Sex-Starved Marriage? IF you have, you'll know that I wholeheartedly agree with you, that many low-lib spouses don't understand their hi-lib spouse's need for sexual connection. They think it's because sex is just a biological urge...a scratch that needs itching. that's why I wrote this book. I want to explain to those who are less sexually inclined that touching, sexuality is an important way of connecting, being intimate, loving, feeling close. Yes, sometimes, sex is like scratching an itch, but more often than not, it's much, much more than that. Perhaps you can get your wife to read the book too. I have gotten so many letters from people who are reading this book in tandem, at night, in bed. To that, I say, "YES!!!"
So, don't give up. Empathy might be right around the corner. And don't withhold affection. Be kind. One day she might really understand. Michele
