Depending upon your emotional state right now, you have the luxury of "just rolling with it." I think it's a good place to be in. We could ask FIB, because I think that's kind of the place he's in.
If you can reach or have reached that point where her words and actions don't cut quite as hard anymore, that's a good place. At the very least I think it's a goal to shoot for in the current situtation with her still at home.
Unless you are just that fed up with her, I don't think I'd shoo her away. She wants to run the show now and drive the direction of this relationship, so I would say let her. You never know.
Not having your emotional and physical well being tied to another means that you can almost kind of observe from above as things unfold. It also allows you to be decent towards her, even though what she has chosen might piss you off.
Again, I think this is where FIB is. You talk to him on the phone and you just don't hear that deep sadness or heaviness in his heart now. He SOUNDS free. I could be reading it wrong, but that's what it sounds like to me. And yet, there he is still sharing the house with the woman he's in the process of divorcing. I kind of think that's the side benefit of him making the decision for the RIGHT reason, and not to punish her or get back at her.
Love's a tricky thing. Most of us (non-MLC'ers anyway) can't just turn it on and off. 10, 15, 20+ years is a long time to share a life with someone. You'd expect some feelings to stick around for awhile, despite what they might have done to alienate you from them.
Ok, now I'm officially rambling.
Just wanted to agree that going with the flow was a good approach right now.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
