Minkerman is done

[minkerman]

I am comfortable with however this turns out at this point.

My big 180 today was to tell her that I have thought about what she told me last night, and she is right. If she feels she needs to move on, if she has been trying to find a way out for 12 years, who am I to tell her what her feelings are or should be? I am not going to talk her into staying, when she clearly thinks she is not "in love" with me. How satisfying could that be?

She has to want it.

I have officially "dropped the rope" and will continue to stand guard on my marriage while letting her think I am moving on. My needy behavior has gotten us to this point, now let's try this and see what it does.

Big risk, I know. But, to her, this would be completely unexpected behavior from me. I need to shock her.