Tree,

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I just talked to the new MC downstairs and she said there is still hope and not to detach to much and re-inforce that i still want this marriage to last forever.


And, you also admit that you may not be detaching enough, instead you may be resenting more than you realized. Detachment is letting go of emotional considerations, and resentment is an emotional consideration. So, before you worry about detaching too much, as the MC pointed out, you must first reach a level where you detach enough. This is all metered by the idea of doing what works, less of what doesn't.

Once you reach that level of detachment, WAS may start to become even more confused and even panicky toward you, instead of the pissy, annoyed, resentful behavior you have become accustomed to. It is at that time the you need to be concerned about "over-detachment", which WAS could then consider disinterest. Then it's time to "try something different" again, and slowly show increased interest.

I don't mean to second guess your new MC, but I suspect that you have told her that you are detaching when you may still need some work on that. It is definitely possible to become over-detached, but your recent self stated self realization may indicate that you really are not at risk of that just yet.

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