Interesting interaction with H this morning. He dropped off D at about 8:30 this morning, she slept overnight with him last night. When he was here we briefly spoke about this coming weekend. I said to him, I want to talk about Easter weekend too. He said what about it. I said, well that's your weekend...but I was hoping to see D a bit too because of it being Easter. Especially since my parent's are going out of town and won't be here. (I was trying not to come right out and say "I'll be all by myself!!". He didn't seem to open to it and was almost a bit short with me. He said..well you've got her home with you on the Friday anyway. I just said, don't worry about. Just leave it as is. And he left. Within an hour he phoned me. He said, listen...about Easter...we'll figure something out. He made a couple suggestions that included him bringing her home in the morning on the Sunday. I said I didn't want to take away from his weekend and he said it's ok we'll figure something out. I said that it was something I was going to have to get used to anyway. I kind of himmed and hawwed around something and he prompted me to just say it. I said...I just get sad about it, but I'll have to deal with it. I thanked him for calling back and talking about it.
This is different behaviour for him. It means that after he left he was actually thinking about what I said and was empathetic about it. That is the second time in a matter of weeks that he has been that way. He never would have felt it necessary to call back and try to compromise before. He certainly didn't at Christmas time. Anyway, I'm supposed to be looking for the small positive changes and that is one for sure. He also mentioned wanting to come next Tuesday to D's gymnastics class to watch her. I'll take it for what it's worth and keep plugging along with what I'm doing. Hopefully it's working!
I had to reschedule the lawyer once again because we're expecting more snow in the morning (we've had more snow this year that I can ever remember getting...except maybe when I was kid!) So now I go to see her on Thursday. H hasn't mentioned anything about it to me...although I'm expecting it soon.
Any thoughts??? J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
