my goals are to be with my W . my gut tells me to ask her out and show her love. THIS IS NOT WORKING!!!!
You said it, not me. It's very important that you are able to see this in everything you do. It is often counter-intuitive. Remember that, because there very will come a time that what you are trying now without success will be the very thing that WILL work at another time. That's when it's time to try something different. BTW, trying something different always works, because to define actions that DO work. Also, don't forget that this will take time. Settle in for the long haul.
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so i guess my new action is to give my wife space. i still have the goal to get with her but noew im trying a diffrent option. isw this what you mean?
I could not have said that better! It's so much easier for me and Mink when you say yourself what we would tell you
Think about what you have just realized and think about how to impliment. REmember that if you cannot think of what to do that works, do nothing. Nothing rarely doesn't work. It gives you time to reconsider and make a plan about doing something different.
This is going to take all the time it takes. Get ready for that. You are getting ahead of yourself in some of your concerns. Take it one day at a time for now. Don't worry about taxes until you have to, and remember you can file an extension. Don't worry about leases in May, you can probably also get that extended too. Worry about it when you need to. Right now, worry about making yourself feel better and letting her get her head together. Avoid pursuing her. As for the texts and calls, if she asks you to call, do what she asks and no more, but even less. If you stop trying to contact her, she may even get curious about that and contact you. Follow her lead, don't pursue, and give her all the time and space she needs, and much more than she asks for.
