Steelers Fan - Husband Making Progress Part III

[MidwesternGirl]

H called me this morning and we spoke for about 90 minutes.

He told me that he hates the turmoil he is in, says he cannot just move back home because he feels it is not fair to OW although he no longer tells me he loves her, knows how wrong he has been, but feels so tormented by all of this.

Says he does not know what the future holds, is relying on God.

One of the good things is that he is talking and he also asked me about what I felt thru all of this and yes, I was honest and he was grateful.

I told him that in the beginning I was hurt, angry, felt abandoned and left to raise three kids on my own, that OW hated me so much she saw this as a contest to see who would cave first (me thru divorce which I did not do) amongst other things.

He said as time went on he started to see all of the damage.

I told him I was so grateful that we are having these conversations as it is helping me as well and I can tell him things that I have kept bottled up.

He also told me that OW feels the turmoil and does not like this either. Well, this is when I wish I could have said she should tell him to go back to his family but I did not say such a thing.

From my viewpoint, she is clinging to every last drop of him she can get.

We ended the conversation saying that we both felt good about what we were saying, that we loved each other, he does not know what the future holds..........I do know we are not headed for divorce.

I am just posting to show/tell what is going on his this MLCer's mind.