A good book to help with reconciliation is "Getting Back Together." You might find some useful stuff there. Also, DB has a great section in it about using... I think it's CBT? (someone correct me if I'm wrong), in helping work through problems. Whatever it is it's a very effective method of dealing with normal relationship problems.
I'll have to pull my book out and look for that chapter....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
