Here in Iraq, you never pick up things you didn't drop! I read through your thread. I, like you, want back the woman I married, not the calcified, angry, bitter, self-loathing, vitriolic, open festering sore that my wife has become. I can't go back to a world where I'm NEVER right on ANYTHING, including driving vacuuming, painting, mowing the lawn, picking the right gas station or Christmas tree. I'm reminded of your story about dancing with your wife, and her telling you to pull your stomach in....(I love you too, dear. Your little idiosyncracies are endearing to me!!!)
I can't get clubbed like a baby seal over and over, so NO, it's not wrong to not want your wife back. I'm only 2 years older than you, but the thought of ever starting with anyone new is overwhelming, but I can't take being a doormat anymore.
Did you get the all important "impersonal gift" from your W? Coffee maker, drinking glasses, butter dish?
