Yes, watch out for resentment building in YOU. Resentment is just anger on low heat. Anger is destructive. Believe me, I have felt a lot of resentment, but I've worked hard to let it go, and have felt better for it. If you feel resentment, then you haven't detached because you are still letting her words and deeds affect you. When you've detached, you watch them with interest and empathy, but you don't take anything personally.
Example: your six year old gets mad at you and says he hates you. Do you take it personally, or do you take note of the context of the situation and respond with calm and care?
Let's carry the example one step farther. Your wife says she doesn't love you anymore. How do you respond. Do you see my point?
Tryingman, you are right, you don't want them to leave if you can help it. Because if they stay, they give you the opportunity to show them what a great person you are. This confuses them, which is a good thing. They will start to question themselves and what they're doing.
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Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
