I just read your "discussion" of yesterday. I think what you both said is THE most important realisation we come to through this journey. The books, therapists, experts, everybody talks about it and it is true. It takes time to realise it when we are in such a fundamental crisis for our lives facing a divorce or a break up. Once we do, it get's much easier. At least it did for me. My T says, "you can't control your past nor your future, just your present, make the best out of it" She is right, you know. A lot of our anxieties just vanish if we think about it, this way.
