The thoughts towards moving on are (IMO) a defense mechanism. After all, if they want out and treat us badly, why would we stay and torture ourselves? In my case I've done alot of soulsearching and know that I was/am concerned about looking clingy and stupid by hanging on. Not in a grasping way, but just by my refusal to be done with it. I've finally come to a place where I really don't care how it looks to anyone. I can take any feedback that my friends offer and evaluate it. I don't feel a need to defend my actions excpet to our D's. Even then, I am very cautious about what I say.
That you GALing and PMA is bugging her, well there really isn't anything you can do (or should want to) about that. What would be the cost to you if you did not persue those things? IMO way too much. It's here own pain that causes her reaction to you.
