I actually got referred through my doctor. Having said that not all cognitive therapists are psychologists.

I agree with you that if you haven't been in the situation you don't know what it feels like. I would even add that even if you have been in the same situation that doesn't mean you will react the same way. I had to get help otherwise my head and my thoughts would have driven my M back into the ground. I have every faith you will sort this out; recognising there is a problem in the first place is the biggest thing IMHO.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength