Working on my W's MLC - the saga continues II

[bombardier50]

Hey Fixer,
I know I'm jumping in here a little late, but I couldn't help but notice some things you said on your post back on 2/25.

By any chance are you on anti-depressants? Just asking 'cause some of the things you were saying in your post kind of tipped me off. Anyway, if you are, great, hope they're helping. If not, I would maybe talk to a doctor. I was reluctant to do it, but now I'm very happy I did. Unfortunately, I had to go through kind of a challenging trial and error period to find one that worked without too many side effects, but the effort was worth it. They really make a difference in my ability to GAL, act as if, and generally keep my head straight both at home and work. I figured I was going through one of the most difficult and painful experiences of my life and I could use all the help I could get.

Try not to get too bummed out about the lack of physical contact. It's an MLC thing. They're trying to eliminate their emotional connection to you to validate their feelings, and cutting off the physical part of the relationship is the first thing they do. I don't even try to touch my wife anymore. It's hard, I know, but if she wants a hug or kiss, I let her initiate. Otherwise, you're kind of pushing yourself on her, and that's a bad thing. And if she does give me a hug, I try not to be too enthusiastic and make sure I'm the first to let go.

It's crazy, I know. Sometimes you just want to grab her and give her a long squeeze, but that's just the way it is and you're going to have to get used to it.

Hang in there, my friend.

Bomb