While I certainly understand your feelings (and would be feeling them too) there's a very good chance that this is two steps forward, one step back. Think about it, you're in a place you've been before. Just keep doing what worked before. You've nothing to lose by keeping your cool.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09