You might want to make sure that your diet isn't effecting your oral health...that can happen and I know you have been working on losing weight but sometimes we forget that there is still that thing called nutrition that we must watch carefully...especially when dieting...and yes, stress doesn't help in any of the areas of our life...
I know you WANT to think that a hug will take care of the tension...believe me if that was the cure all I think most of us would have skipped past much of this...I can tell that the tension remained between H and I...even with hugs...after his return...and I am sorry to tell you that like everything else it takes time...and working through the issues that are causing the tension...like H and the OW for starters...
So patience....time...patience...time...focus on you and the kids...leave H to work on himself...give him the room he needs even if he might think otherwise...he really needs to grow up and learn to be alone...you have come a long way but you still have a long way to go...this is not for the weak...that is for darned sure...but as with most things...the rewards are worth it...
