Ending Ws EA.......Need Advice

[Michael Mc C]

Yes, it really is an addiction. They are "in love" but have most likely lost the true meaning of love. Their endorphins kick in everytime they speak and they believe they have finally found their soulmate.

My Wife's "soulmate" left 3 times - this last time for good we hope.

There really isn't much you can do right now, which sucks, except take care of yourself, live for yourself and your kids. You don't have to exclude your wife (you're still living together, right?) but don't make the plans contingent on her participation.

Listen to what your wife says to you about why things went south - it took months for my wife to finally say some truly meaningful things (at first it was my lack of help around the house, the fact that was never around for the kids and a few other completely nonsensical issues - she finally got around to telling me that she felt controlled, she didn't feel sexy, she felt that I had lost my sense of excitement, etc.) Whenever your wife points out one of your "faults", examine it and honestly assess whether or not there is any meat to it. If there is, do something about it. This will not necessarily get her to end the EA but if/when the EA does end, who do you want your wife to see when she looks back at you?

Best of luck and hang in there.