Thanks Blindsided. I haven't been as good lately about popping in other threads. I need to catch up!

I had thought today that was sparked by my C session the other day as well as by this book I'm reading.

I've really been wondering lately why it is that my dreams had to be shattered. Why?
Well perhaps they haven't been. Perhaps they hadn't truly been realized as I thought they had.
I was happy with my life. I did and do love my H. I want my family to be back together so we can raise our children together in a happy and loving environment. Mutually happy and loving.

I deserve someone who loves me, respects me and will help me fulfill all of my hopes and dreams as much as I want to do that for him. I want to believe this person is my H...but what if it is not? I believe it can be, I know it is possible. But if it doesn't happen with him, it doesn't mean I can't have it.

So is my dream to lead this wonderful life? Or to live this wonderful life WITH H? Well my dream is the latter, but if H can't give it to me...it doesn't mean all is lost. I can still have it.
So I'll hold up my dream as something as yet to be realized. My dream of happy and fulfilled family life is still possible. And the name and the face of the person I deserve to have in my life will eventually reveal itself.

I hope I made sense of that.
J~


M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out