Thanks Tree. I am doing my darndest to slow things down, even though it goes against my every instinct.
For instance, she called me as I was leaving work (you will recall I dropped my cell phone in the river yesterday).
MM: "Hello?" W: "Oh, so you have a new phone now!" MM: "Yeah, I just got it about 15 minutes ago" W: "Oh, well that's good, so you're connected again" MM: "Yep...so, you on your way home now?" W: "Yeah, I'm on the bus" MM: "OK, well, talk to you later. Stay in touch" W: "OK bye"
I stayed cool and I ended the conversation, both straight out of DR.
Also, I am sitting here right now on my laptop. I have Windows Messenger "up" right now. I see she is signed in. The only 2 people she talks to on Messenger is myself and our son. I see he is not signed in, so she is leaving it running for what...to see if I give in and message her? That would be my usual pattern. but I won't.
I did the same thing on Sunday, and after about an hour, I heard *ding* I looked over and it was her, texting "good morning". I jumped in and we had a nice online convo.
This is a mild 180 for me, kinda taking baby steps myself. I can not pursue or chase her. She has told me, in plain English, that she doesn't want me to right now, that she feels freaked out and smothered, so that one is easy to figure out.
I'll let you guys know if there are any changes or updates...I'm sure it will help somebody.
