So much got laid out on the line today I know I can't remember all of it. I will have to try to write it down for my T. I'm sure she will let me know on Thursday all of the things I did wrong.
You've seemed frustrated over the last few days - I think we both have a similar problem of having our spouses around so much, it's impossible to interpret their intentions. You certainly seemed to have a more productive conversation with your H than I have with my W, although your H isn't denying the EAs to the same level my W is.
I'll post in my thread later, but I ended up having a pretty good evening with my W. I realize it means nothing in the grand scheme of things, but at least we're working on being friends again. Too damn stressful any other way.