Broken Tree:

Glad to hear you are headed to Colorado to do something that makes you happy. This is one of the keys, as everyone who's been down this road says. I've been on this path for eight months now, and it looks like a D (though she's not taken any action, and frankly I swing back and forth between feeling that a D is just what we both need and hoping, perhaps naively, that we can find a way to create a new M).

It truly is one step at a time, and try to learn to be comfortable in the pain rather than run from it. GAL, but don't suppress the hurt when you feel it. Embrace it and learn from it. That is agony, but I've come to feel that for there to be any healing we have to take this route. Denial of the hurt will only make it worse and leave us without the lessons we all need to learn. Figure out what your lessons are, and then try to learn them, one step at a time.