Thanks for stopping by. Unfortunately, she moved out yesterday, although it was a pretty rough back and forth of her trying to decide to do it or not. OM came up a lot. I didn't ask a lot of questions, just said that as long as she was devoting her emotional energy towards him, nothing could be fixed in our marriage. That was my consistent message, anyway. But you're right - I won't bring him up again.
She ended up saying she needed to talk to a professional - she didn't know what was wrong with her, why she had such a problem feeling trapped in the house with me and why she treated me so badly. She said she wanted to go see C a couple times before talking again. I said that was fine - we had known each other a long time and I wasn't going to give up on our marriage. I wanted her to take her space.
So, I'm still feeling pretty crappy and out of it right now, but I recognize that I'm finally ready to kick my GAL into high gear. I'm okay with her leaving and next time I won't let her come back until I know she's really committed to making our R work.
