The party was fun and it was good to be with friends.
Yesterday was a bad day, I am dealing with going to school, trying to study for a state exam, and my new job, so I really didn't need the distraction of coping with a divorce too.
And last night at after nine thirty, I was just dozing off when I was awakened by someone pounding on my door, then leaning on the doorbell, then pounding some more. The house was pitch black, and I was scared, so I didn't get up to see who it was, but I know it was H. Probably trying to bully me into signing his D papers.
Wow. H really is insane. Next time, I am calling the cops.
Well, I talked to my lawyer, and told him to just go ahead and receive H's D papers. He said that would be fine.
Plus it would save me a lot of anxiety from worrying about getting served at any time. At this point, I wouldn't be surprised if H had me served at church.
Anyway, looks like I'm headed over to the D forum now. There is no way that I can stall this, he is so hellbent on pushing this through now. It would just make me look like a desperate, clawing woman to try to hang on. I'm sure he feels trapped and wants to get on with his new life. I bet the reason for the big rush is that H wants to marry his new GF this summer.
Consider that a bear hug from me. Good for you for talking to your L because you're right, if you try to stall, you're doing to look desperate. You have to worry about your own emotional and mental health.
Kimmie, Oh my heart just aches for you. I know the pain in unbearable right now. Try to get out with friends and family and do things. It helps to keep busy. I'm sure he is still in a deep fog right now, so nothing you can do or say will change his mind. Please take care of yourself and be the best you can be. It will help you, as well as showing him what a wonderful and strong person you are.
Hugs,
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Kimmie, I don't have any advice but wanted to offer my hugs and support too! I guess we just have to keep being the best we can be, like Yoyo says, and I do think eventually our H's are going to realize and regret their whatever you call it (MLC, stupidity, insanity or whatever they happen to be going through!). Karen
I do ok for awhile, and then I dissolve into tears. I don't think any healing will really start until long after we're divorced. Then I truly will be forced to move on.
Kimmie, Glad you stopped by. Time does help heal, but getting through that time can be tough. "To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first." Have you looked into joining a divorce support group?
How is the new job going? Did you get through the state exam yet?
