I just don't see things lasting with OW either. My H has a hard time coping with being a provider, an H and a father and we've been with him for years. How does he expect to step into a world with a woman with 4 kids that will no doubt (at least 2 of them) know he's the person that their mom left their dad for. He gets upset quickly with our D when she's cranky. I also picture H's 20-something friends coming over all the time. Although I'm sure it will be fine at first, with 4 kids around, I'm sure the fun would quickly end.
You know, I was laying here today thinking that I just want this over with. Not necessarily my M, but the pain. I don't know how much more I can honestly take. OW's H said he feels like this is the calm before a very large storm. We both agreed that we'll have to go through the devestation all over again when they leave. My H came home early today, as he's been sick. His boss heard his hacking cough and told him to go home & take care of himself.
Last week H emailed me reminding me that it was the birthday of a very good friend of ours. He asked me to call or email him. I emailed him. He responded asking how things were going. As I always have been with him, I was honest about our situation. I told him that I've wanted to contact him about it for a long time but didn't have the strength. He replied today telling me that he was saddened to hear that it was as bad as it was, but to please call or email him anytime I needed anything and he would be there for me and help me hold myself together. He told me that H hadn't contacted him in a long time, even when he'd called & left messages for H. He also said that H was very "brief" when answer questions about me and told our friend that all is well. He's a very, very sweet man. And might I add, a much older man. He's more of a father figure to H and I.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
