...maybe a continuance was better than calling the D off.
I really believe this was the better decision to make.
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I think a lot of LBS feel the way you do. We go through so much hurt and do so much to work on ourselves while the WAS does nothing to work on themselves. They still have the same problems and the same complaints (at least my H did). This was hard for me to deal with...but I have to give him time to catch up with me.
Couldn't agree with you more, and the same problems, same complaints are still there from my H, too. I have to continue to work on his number one complaint which is a hard one for me, but I would also like some understanding from him and a little leeway. I don't feel that's too much to ask for. I've tried talking (always calmly) to him about it, but he doesn't "get it". He says he's not perfect and can't just implant a chip into his brain to remember this. IOW, he can't control his reactions. I've learned to control mine, and honestly, I've become very successful at it; I just wish he would try, too.
I believe the toughest work has yet to come.
Thanks, klm! I'm very grateful for everyone's support and understanding here. It helps immensely!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
