Wow 9 months without income, that had to have an effect on his psyche. You're probably right about OW, hen she saw the gravy train wasn't what it was supposed to be she bailed. H believes that without a job he had nothing of value to offer you and D, I don't know about you but all I need from my W is her love and support, I don't care what she brings to the table financially. I could be just as happy in a three room house with her as in a huge house. Maybe though i might feel the same way as H if I wasn't bring home the bacon.
I thought that H bringing up some of the good times was a positive, so many times while their in MLC they only bring up the bad times. Maybe with this new job he will finally step out of the tunnel to stay.
We had a hearing in Jan, one day after I went back to work. The magistrate continued it until March 31. It was for spousal support and property division. We are supposed to meet with our attys on the 13th to come up with a division of our stuff. She doesn't talk about the D, I've tried to get her to meet with me and see what she wants from the house. I had planned to keep the house but now I think I will sell it and split the equity with her. S26 is moving into a house his friend just bought and it will only be D19 and me. The house needs some work, new carpet in family, living, dining, and master bedroom, New kitchen floor. I think her atty wants her to get half of what it would be worth if it was all fixed up, not discounting what I will have to spend to fix it up.
I'll just keep up keeping her in the gray area about what I do and with who. Keep planting a seed of doubt if I'll be around if and when she decides to reconnect. Will stop by D's house this weekend on way to meet a friend. Our best friends S is getting married in April, I was thinking about asking her to be my date for it. Got an invitation for me and a guest.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
