I DO GET ILY'S, I GET "IM HERE 4-EVER....YOU LET ME HOME SO NOW YOU ARE STUCK WITH ME. I LOVE YOU SOOO MUCH. IM SO HAPPY IM HOME" JUST NO INTAMCY
I think he is very afraid because the guilt he carries is enormous.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
he started the texting lastnight which lasted about 90 minutes.
it was a really nice exchange:
i told him that i felt like a failure as a mom the last two years as i did not discipline as well as I could have.
he told me i have been the best mom anyone could ever have and also told me he was partly to blame for things as well.
then he told me he felt so blessed to have a wife like me
thanked me for not giving up on him
said i was his only love and would be mine forever.....................
i feel like i am living a fairy tale!!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yes, it has been such a nice way to talk with my husband both on the phone, in person, you name it.
We are even texting first thing when we wake up as well but not for the same amount of time.
I feel so blessed that he is opening up to me. He is so thankful that I never gave up on him. He has been amazing and we are on week four of this communication. I wish others could experience this.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H called me this morning and we spoke for about 90 minutes.
He told me that he hates the turmoil he is in, says he cannot just move back home because he feels it is not fair to OW although he no longer tells me he loves her, knows how wrong he has been, but feels so tormented by all of this.
Says he does not know what the future holds, is relying on God.
One of the good things is that he is talking and he also asked me about what I felt thru all of this and yes, I was honest and he was grateful.
I told him that in the beginning I was hurt, angry, felt abandoned and left to raise three kids on my own, that OW hated me so much she saw this as a contest to see who would cave first (me thru divorce which I did not do) amongst other things.
He said as time went on he started to see all of the damage.
I told him I was so grateful that we are having these conversations as it is helping me as well and I can tell him things that I have kept bottled up.
He also told me that OW feels the turmoil and does not like this either. Well, this is when I wish I could have said she should tell him to go back to his family but I did not say such a thing.
From my viewpoint, she is clinging to every last drop of him she can get.
We ended the conversation saying that we both felt good about what we were saying, that we loved each other, he does not know what the future holds..........I do know we are not headed for divorce.
I am just posting to show/tell what is going on his this MLCer's mind.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well, this is where my patience and faith in God is tested.
He knows where he wants to be but just can't quite make it here.
Still in the does not want to hurt OW frame of mind even though he knows all of us over here have suffered as well.
He said she is feeling lots of turmoil whatever that means. He says she pretty much knows he wants to be with me. I am sure she will try laying some guilt trip on him but so be it.
She can pressure him and nag him and I am just going to sit back and watch it all unfold.
Still he was so complimentary toward me telling me I did the best I could and said I was a great mother and so on. He also thanked me for sticking it out and said he felt blessed to have me as his wife.
He is talking like he has never talked before which amazes me.
We are on week four of these talks so we shall see how they progress.
He does admit how much better he feels after he talks to me because he always thinks the talks will not go as well as they have been going.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
