O.K., I have to ask this, and I really hope you will answer and not get defensive...

Is this just a regular shower curtain?

I mean, is it installing a whole new rod and everything, 'cause then this would make sense to me. But the way you are writing it, I am picturing a shower curtain. And, I am wondering, why do you need help with that?

HSS, I know you don't like my advice, but I'm in a bit of a predicament here... I read some of your stuff and really want to point some things out to you. I don't do it, because I don't want to upset you, as my comments have in the past. BUT, you have been spinning in the same circles for the longest time now, and I feel that it is wrong to just ignore it, too.

I have been eating my words since November when you posted that your H came over on the Saturday after T-day and did the T-day dishes...

Maybe you just are not clear in the way you write, I don't know. I do know that things like the dishes, the Christmas boxes, and the shower curtain all add up to someone who needs to take charge and not wait for someone else to do those things. I am not saying you will get your H back, but it could go a long way towards a newfound respect towards you.

Forgive me if I am wrong and have mixed you up with someone else, but I swear that your H is one who likes an orderly house and has said that you don't carry your load around there. If this is the case, again, doing those things would go a long way.

Even if I am mistaken...
the sense of satisfaction you would get from taking care of things with no help from him would be enormous. It may have meant transferring the Christmas decorations into smaller boxes that you (or your son) could have gotten into the attic..and yes, that is an extra step and a hassle... things like that put you in control somewhat. At a time when things are so out of control, even the smallest things help.

I hope I have come across as intended. I am not coming out of left field, either. I have had to rethink things since my H moved out. I have had to shovel the driveway, fix broken toilets, and do other things that would have normally fallen under his duties. With each thing I accomplish I become stronger and more in control of my life.

That is what I wish for you.

I am not making fun of you, I am not mocking you, I am not thinking I am the (how did you put it?) "Royal Authority."

I am just someone who is trying to help someone else who is struggling.

I hope you take this as intended.

And, if I did totally misunderstand you, I hope you can see where I was coming from, get a laugh out of it, and then not give it another thought.