Thanks, Sue, Yoyo,

((((Hugs)))) in return. I can't think of anyone else who gives better virtual hugs than you wonderful DB ladies.

My disappointment with my W is complete. The fact is that I took on more and more responsibility in a thankless job so that W could be off during the week to better raise our S's, while I became a weekend Mr. Mom -- and that this resulted in the unfortunate loss of adequate quality time between W and myself over the last seven years of our M, which is the root cause for our estrangement. We sacrificed so much for our family, including the health of our M itself (unwisely), so our children would have the maximum benefit of two loving parents. That was our intent. And yet all that sacrifice is now for naught -- my W has backpedaled away from her side of this covenant, on all accounts.

I cannot believe she can somehow rationalize to herself this insurmountable loss to our children. I cannot believe this is the same woman who I married. I cannot believe this is the same woman I spent long hours talking with while we dated and after we took our vows, discussing how we wanted to raise our children in the best of circumstances. We wanted to try to home-school our children. We wanted to work together to give them a loving home and to at least minimize the need for daycare. We wanted to maximize our influence on our children. We agreed on so much for so many years, and then as the reality check came in, W began to renege in piecemeal fashion on her side of the bargain. No more home-schooling, no more school choice, no more Christian-led education, no more marriage, no more wife, no more father, no more family.

Who is this person?


Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.