The hard part is that I am not really ready to throw in the towel as I so very much miss the good times we had as a family. I still feel like I owe it to my children to not give up just yet.
I hear you. And I wasn't saying to throw in the towel. It was probably more throw your gauntlet in the ring. If she wants you, she should be winning you, not waiting for OM to die and see if you're still available. Kerry, I've read enough of your advice to others and enough of your own thread to know that YOU AREN'T ANYONE'S FALLBACK PLAN. She doesn't deserve you at the moment (and may never unless she gets her head on straight)...on that I agree with your brother.
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I think now is a good time to ask her for the house key along with splitting our checking account and vehicles. I dont care if she gets mad and it causes her feeling to move more towards the OM
I whole-heartedly agree with this. Just handle it matter of fact if she gets mad (ie "We are separated and getting divorced. It doesn't make any sense for you to have the key or to share accounts".) It might be a dose of reality that she needs.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
