Just popping in to say I'm thinking of you. Sorry H made this decision. Continue to be strong and know we are here to support you however we can. I believe in my heart that things will work out and you will be fine! Hang in there!
((((Grace))))) You are amazing!
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
Hey Grace, I just wanted to drop by as you have been so kind to post to me. I am sorry your h is acting as he is. Isnt is amazing who they become?
When my h and I were going to tell my son, we rehearsed what we were going to say after I cleared it with my therapist. I wanted to do what was best for him. So, of course, we would not tell him about OW and we were going to say, this was something we both agreed on. Then my h starts to talk and says, I am angry at things your mother does and doesnt do. What?????? I could have hurt him. It is hard taking the high road. But I promised myself, I would have my dignity. And I see your have yours. You are fighting the good fight, Grace. And in the end, it will matter.
Wow, I go away for a couple of days and look at you wonderful folks checking on me. Sigh.
Things are peaceful enough here (we don't really fight anyway). I've gooten angry a couple of times regarding things that H said to D13. Then I took a breath and told him about it. I have explained that communication is more important now than ever and we both need to step up. His plan (for now) is to come and visit D's on Sunday's. I'm fine with that and if it changes (on my end) I'll let him know. I expect the same courtesy from him. We haven't talked finances yet. I said I'd like to do that this week. We'll see how he proceeds D wise. He said (this weekend) that he wouldn't peruse it until I was on my feet. To which I responded, that could be years. He simply said, I know. Ok, then.
D13 is having the most trouble and I intend to have both D's go with me to a C. I want us to be able to communicate well and I think we need some different tools to be able to do that.
After all, my integrity is the one thing that can't be taken from me. I'd have to give that away.
Grace: Just take one day at a time. You are amazing and are doing so well! Keep the communication going! It doesn't sound like H is in too big of a hurry when it comes to D....that is a good thing. They say time is our friend...time to rebuild, time to repair, time to GAL... you know what I mean.
Don't give up! ((((Grace)))))
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
