I did poke him, and half of it was for the kids and half for me. He thinks that the kids will be fine regardless of what happens, like it's going to be easy to make them OK with this. I guarantee that if almost half of the weeknights he's with him he has to rearrange for work, the kids will start to notice. My big beef with custody is that he is able to meet his commitments and long-term he wants 40% and right now he isn't able to meet his five out of every 14 days. The kids need to be able to plan on him and have a schedule. Kids need/like schedules, especially when facing a situation such as divorce.

It was really nice of him to ask me if I'd do this, wasn't it? It's obvious that he knows I'll do it and then puts me in the spot to be the bad guy by telling me to tell him if this doesn't work for me. ppbbblllt!

cake and eat it too, cake and eat it too...


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.