CAT03, I'm not sure we've left every stone unturned. For one we've never seriously tried counseling. Although she's made indications several time that she's open to it. In the end she seems to avoid it because "not sure of the value in it". She said the same thing about Retrouvaille even though she knows communication was a big problem in our marriage for both of us. We both could stand to learn more about how to communicate more effectively, listening, processing and speaking. But honestly I think she's avoided counseling and such because she's avoiding addressing her personal issues head on.
There have been times when it seems she's realized she needs to address them, even shown some desire to but in the end she turns away from them. In the end I don't think she realizes she's driving the wedge between us now, not me. My never say quit attitude helps and hinders us. It probably has more to do with why we aren't divorced yet even though legally either of us could have filed as of Nov. 9, 2007. But I am moving forward with life now and am excited about all the opportunities it holds for me!
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
